real.

It’s been a while since I have written about my story. I know, everything I write is a part of me and my story, but the ever so familiar action of shoving the hard stuff away, has equated in my lack of taking the time to sit and write about all that happened growing up. So many memories, thoughts, and questions swirling around in my mind can make it ever so hard to escape the “you can’t do this,” mentality.

But, this is my step into bravery, so one stride at a time, I will continue to write and share.

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It was an ordinary day in second grade. I was a full on scrawny eight year old with missing teeth and an unkept ponytail. Our class was outside for recess; twenty something children running and screaming off extra energy. The bell rang, signaling for us to form a single file line, waiting for the teacher to initiate our transition back into the classroom. While shuffling into placement, a classmate turned around, looked me square in the eye and said, “you don’t have real parents.”

You don’t have real parents.

These words, spoken in innocent ignorance, have stuck with me for years, and have almost become a normal exchange between myself and peers when speaking of my story, even to this day.

Have you ever met your real parents? Do you know who your real parents are? What do your real parents look like?

Somehow, the knowledge of someone’s adoption and the lack of blood relation that it creates between the child and parent denotes the realness of the relationship.

I do have real parents. I know who my real parents are. I have met my real parents; they raised me. My real parents are the ones who fed me a warm meal, who tucked me in at night, who brought me to dance class. My real parents and I share no biological traits. But, I have no hesitation in acknowledging that they are my real parents.

I also have biological parents. The ones who’s DNA is in my being. The mom who tried to raise me but couldn’t. The dad who told no one of my existence and had no interaction in my life. The parents who didn’t take my first day of school pictures, applaud me after piano recitals, or throw me a graduation party. The individuals who had no presence throughout my upbringing. The ones who people refer to as my real parents.

Sure, my story isn’t the traditional one, but who’s is anymore? We are all unique individuals with a one of a kind story. Be inquisitive, but inclusive. Listen to each other. Embrace each other. We may have different perceptions on life, but that’s what makes us who we are. And, that, is truly truly beautiful.

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