It doesn’t have to be complicated or uncomfortable. It doesn’t require a lot.
If I sit with this for too long, I get angry. It feels dehumanizing. Am I just a commodity for someone’s desires?
I hope that there will be more acknowledgement of trauma and emotional confusion that is so prevalent among adoptees. I hope it shows that children have a lot more insight than may be perceived.
What we have to remind ourselves is trust is a gradual process that takes time, effort and commitment; you have to start with the small stuff before you can trust with the big.
Adoption is hard. Regardless of age, there is trauma, the two go hand in hand. No child comes as a blank slate.